Chill out- enjoy the moment 💟

So many times I get asked if I get jeolous over other Woman around my Husband. Simply, the answer is No. He is very Handsome and personable, he is easy to talk to and makes everyone feel special. This is only some of what made me fall in love with him. I explained to a Woman after she couldn't comprehend why I just didn't get upset over flirtatious hugs or what not, That it is just this simple:

The worse that that could happen is he would leave me, his children, and run off with 'fling girl'; and that would just suck. But, who am I to tell him what he needs or what is good for him? If he feels another woman and life is better than what he has, then peace out. I am not going to waste my energies on negative thoughts that will eventually eat my soul.

Of course I would be hurt, it would destroy the children, and there would be a time of healing. But that is an extreme case- if he 'chooses' to leave us. At the end of the day, a flirtatious hug or a friendly peck on the cheek more than likely isnt going to kill our mariage or what we've built together. 

Now, I can feel this way because my Husband has never done anything for me to distrust him; although other men have, he is not them, and he deserves for me to base my trust in him on his actions, not those of my past.

So for any woman out there who may get all worked up over every little thing, and your Man honestly has not done anything to cause distrust in him, just relax and enjoy your Man💖

If there is distrust in the relationship, then by all means if you question their intentions, then talk about it. But even then don't jump the gun, give time for the trust to rebuild💞

Let's be honest...

No, really. I'll never understand why most humans choose lies over truth when our hearts crave truth so much.

Here is a story about yours truly to use as an example of what I mean.....

When I first met my now Husband, the first things I told him when he gave me his shit eating grin and his best attempt at a pick up line, was that he did not want anything to do with me. It was more of a warning, for his sake not mine. I had enough on my plate and no time or room to intertain his interest, and I told him that. He did not seem to mind, he was honest and said "well then you'd be the perfect one night stand, a woman like you would make me crazy to get involved in".  For the first time in a very long time I laughed, genuinly laughed. He caught my attention againts all attepts I made to not let that happen. So I continued.....layed All my baggage on him, warned him again about what he was stepping in to....

Now I do this "laying it all on the table"  in all situations & in my daily communications. My reason is simply, as long as the other person knows very clearly where you are coming from and where you stand, they have all the tools they need to make what ever decission is best for them. It works in idol chitchat, or in deeper conversations that involve change...and everywhere in between.

Back to my story- if I would have been coy and manipulative with him in the beginning, the outcome would have lead to him be greatly pissed and angry with me. Leaving my guilt to consume me. He would be in  the right to feel that way if things didnt go as planned.

Now that i was honest upfront, he could only be "butthurt" if things didnt work out, because he had all the info he needed in order to make the decision to take a risk with me...and when taking a risk it is natural to feel hurt if your risk falls through.....get it?

Telling the truth upfront is ALWAYS the best way. Doesn't mean it is easy or doesn't sting, but is the best way.....come on I mean when we have good news we are truthful about it and feel free and proud and happy to share it.  It is weak of us to only want to feel the good in life, and hide behind the lies in order not to feel the pain.

 Living is about feeling. Feeling every emotion from love, fear, hurt, sorrow, joy, the list goes on and
on...... They strengthen us. Lies only bring guilt, stress regret etc etc.... These can truly eat your soul up, and tear you down. No one wants to really feel this way.

So after my hippy rant of peace, truth, love and happiness - please take this home with you:  be truethful to yourselves so you can be truethful to others. Life is SO much easier that way 💗