Drifters

Yesterday I was talking to a sweet wonderful young woman, she was feeling a little down in the dumps, almost as if she just did not have a place she felt she belongs. After years of being close to a girl friend of hers, their friendship has started to drift apart. Slowly they started to have less and less in common, rarely spoke to eachother in passing, and when the attempt to reach out was made, the  friend'seemed to not notice. This made the young woman start to feel like the outcast, like she was no longer welcomed in her others friends new ring of gals. This young woman has other friends, but still she feels that she is the 'last resort friend' at times.

So here is what I tried to explain to her, she and her previous gal pal are both strong smart solid types of girls...confident, make their own choices, stand their grounds....they shared many great times together. Each of the friends grew in different directions over the years and developed new different interest and friendships.

What I wanted this young woman to realize is that people come into our lives for a specific reason, as we come into other's lives, although she misses the friendship once shared, her and her friend are now passing on the same  friendship they gave to eachother onto others.

I explained to her, that even when ones beliefs change, and what a person believes to be wright from wrong can change a relationship. It does not neccessarily mean one person is or is not better than the other. We surround ourselves with people who are like minded as us naturally..and we have many aquaintances in all walks of life, and that is ok because we know where our personal boundaries are.

So understand that God pairs up all sorts of people at different stages of their spiritual life to learn, grow, and give support to eachother...and just as one person drifts out of your life, another drifts in....

I pointed out to her how much of a positive influence she is to those who have her in their lives, how she brightens up any day of the week! and yes, sometimes the strong need someone to lean on , but because strong people tend to be viewed as always sturdy and supportive, they need to speak out louder and say 'hey....I need a little friend time here....this is what has been going on..'

So in sharing this, I hope that if you have ever felt disconnected from someone and not sure why...it is more than likely nothing personal to you at all....simply that we have learned from them what God needed us to learn and them from us. Sometimes it is hidden lessons, sometimes it is because another needed support and guidance and the Lord gave you that privilage because he knew you could see them through to the right path.